Thursday, July 23, 2009
What's in a name?
When I got married I happily took on my husband's last name. I loved being a "Mrs." and proudly placed it before my name whenever I had the option. Now I realize that soon I will no longer be Mrs. Solt. I am not quite sure how I feel about that. I am sure there is a deeper issue here associated with the fact that I gave up my maiden name in the first place; but it feels unfair that I have to give up my name and my husband doesn't. I think I feel more strongly about this because of Noah. Resuming my maiden name will mean that we will no longer carry that bond. I will be a Massaro and he will be a Solt. I know that speaks nothing of our actual bond but it still feels important nonetheless. We will no longer be The Solt Family. I just think that is sad.
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I definitely know how you feel about this. I kept my married name because I was afforded that option. It's sad that the law in New York states that you HAVE to take your maiden name back; it's stupid and archaic, and unfair. I kept my married name because I didn't want to confuse my kids.
ReplyDeleteThey were upended enough, I felt, to have to carry a different name than their mother, who they live with. Is there a way you can request to keep your married name?